Quitting Facebook is Impossible

There has been a lot of different “fads” throughout this world yet, not all of them seem to catch on as rapidly as Facebook has. I made my own page when I was 15 years old. I permanently logged off my MySpace account soon after that initial log onto Facebook. It’s honestly almost ridiculous how many people log onto Facebook daily. Yet many of us cannot fathom why we used to love MySpace so long ago. I wonder how long will it take for Facebook to be a thing of the past or will it ever?

In 2011 Facebook posted some statistics about their site, I wanted to share them with you. Even if you have heard these statistics before I hope that you would read  them again.

I don’t know your thoughts on those statistics, but the one that threw me for a loop was the fact that, 1 in every 13 people on earth log onto Facebook everyday! It’s not just us technology craved Americans who are addicted its the whole world! That honestly makes me sick. I have since deleted my Facebook page and have no intent of returning!

If any of you were thinking about deleting your Facebook then let me be your inspiration. I had a very hard time deciding to actually go through with it and deleting my connection to the social network. Even though we all know how addicting Facebook is for some reason the majority of us can’t let it go and for good reason. Who wouldn’t want to be able to see what everyone they know is doing.

Facebook is extremely addicting! You can read everything your friends post on their page. You can see where they have been and where they are going. That information itself is enough to draw anyone in.

Many people don’t take the time to realize the down side to posting your life on the internet. Many companies will not hire before they check Facebook pages. Think now about what pictures you have on your page. Would you put that picture on your resume? Most likely there is at least on picture you wouldn’t do that with.

While Facebook has great advantages, there is a fine line to was is risking to post. There are a lot of people that you can keep in touch with on Facebook and, if you enjoy having everyone know all about you then keep the profile.

With keeping the profile you will be able to keep in touch with many of your “fake” friends. Which of course is my absolute least favorite part of Facebook. After I deleted my page there is so many people that I have not heard from again. I realized I was never really friends with those people. I simply knew of them and could easily keep track of what they were doing while on Facebook.

While this post ended up sounding like a bit of a rant, that was not my intention.

My main point is you should reanalyze why it is you have a Facebook profile. If the pros outweigh the cons then congratulations keep the page. However, if you realize that Facebook has added nothing but drama to your life then, go on and delete it. You will feel great afterwards and, trust me, after a while you will not miss it.

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Stop! Trying to Grow up So Fast

I was having a conversation recently with one of my sisters 13 year old friends. She told me that she wanted to have sex at age 16. Immediately my mouth dropped open and I realized how much the world has changed and is rapidly shaping the new generation with it. When I was growing up I was still banking on the possibility of  not having sex until I was married. That is what I knew was generally expected even if most fell short of that particular expectation. I knew that wasn’t gonna actually happen for me but, I knew I would wait until I really felt emotionally ready for that step in a relationship.

All these young girls don’t understand that there are different doors within a relationship. The hard part is that once you have gone through a door it is very hard to shut a door and go backwards. All the different steps in a relationship should be enjoyed to their fullest extent because, once you move to the next step the previous step automatically seems much less thrilling.

I can vividly remember holding hands with my first “boyfriend”. We were four and he had extremely dry and cracked hands and I thought since I touched his hands I would catch his “disease”. Clearly it was a very panic stricken moment for me. After that I did not hold any boy’s hands for a long time. When I was older and did it was very exciting. I was with a boy exclusively holding his hand proved it. Then after a while I kissed my boyfriends. Every boyfriend after that I kissed. Simply holding their hand around school wasn’t enough. Later, we would make out. A quick kiss on the lips was no longer sufficient. For some reason swapping saliva with middle school boys was intriguing. In just a short matter of years I went from hand holding to making out. Of course, at the time I was not looking back thinking wow that happened fast but now I do.

Holding hands was just something we did while we walked around school because we were “dating”. A quick kiss on the lips was what we did when we had to say a quick goodbye. Both these things became the mundane “I have toos”. Making out was the only thing we really wanted to do, and we did at any moment we could. With each step I cared even less about the previous step. Now being an adult I yearn to go out on a date with a guy who just wants to walk around with me and hold my hand! Even better, a guy who at the end of the night wants nothing more than to just give me a nice goodnight kiss on the lips to seal the end of the date.

There is one thing I wanted to get across to my sisters friend and all the other “younger siblings” in the world: There is no “appropriate age” to have sex. Your parents might tell you one but that age is for their benefit. In reality, you will know when you are ready if you will just put hormones aside and listen to yourself. If their is any doubt in your mind, then you aren’t ready! I dated the first guy I had sex with for almost one whole year before I was ready. (I was almost 18 years old also) He on the other hand made known he was ready after 2 months! Although, i’m sure he was ready earlier, but that was the first time he made it known. I told him that I was not ready and he was okay with waiting for me he understood. That girls is the response you should be looking for when you say no. If the boy tries to convince you to change your mind or asks the very next day that is a red flag! If he does those things then it is easy to tell that he is dating you for one purpose. A relationship has to be based on more than just sex. While sex is an important part of a relationship [when you are older definitely and able to be responsible for the possible consequences] it is not all that a relationship can be based on.

Don’t waste all of those simple moments, one day all you will want is that simplicity back.

Fun Should Be Like Dessert

This picture really got my thinking today. I know that as a college students we all like to have a good time and party. It is almost like it is expected of the age group to go through this time period of “acting out”. Now is our chance to experience everything. We are able to sleep around and not necessarily be judged for it because we are not old enough to be committed to anyone. I do wonder who made it okay to begin to act stupid in the most important point in our lives. As college students we are in school to better ourselves. We need to make the best grades possible to achieve the best careers and salaries possible. So why do some many college students feel that now is the time to act a fool and show no concern their future selves?

Although parents are partially to blame because they keep a close watch on us while we are still living at home it is a little harder to get away with “having fun”. However, there are ways to do what you want and not get caught. While I am by no means endorsing disobedient children, I am saying that parents must let children make mistakes. Parents should realize that by nature we are going to try things even though they are bad for us. It is a known fact that if I child is told no then they immediately are more intrigued as to why it is not allowed. If I were a parent I would want my child to try the questionable things under some sort of supervision so they could get it out of their system safely.

I personally never meant to “Act out” I just had fun with friends. I did however go to my share of parties as a kid. I got all of my partying out of my system while I was in high school though. I went to the clubs and I drank and had  “great times” many that I now cannot really remember. I tried cigarettes and hated it from the first puff. Even though cigarettes never intrigued me it seemed almost a waste to be old enough to buy them and then not try them. As for the drama part I was never much for drama it was too tiresome for me. I preferred to keep to myself and the few friends I could actually stand to be around. One thing that I never tried was the sleeping around. It always seemed horrible to me. Sleeping with someone holds meaning with me. It isn’t just an action that many people take very lightly. I view it as a moment that is to be shared only by those you truly care for deeply. (I won’t go any deeper into that. I will save for a different post)

The main point that I wanted to get across in this post is the fact that girls (and guys for matter) like me are the minority. When I tell people “my number” I get a sort of deer in headlights look as if they don’t believe me. It is pretty ridiculous that it seems almost impossible to meet someone whose number of sexual partners can be counted on one hand. Then later when they find out that I would rather spend the night in watching a great movie and just spending time together, instead of partying they think I’m lying. It is an insult when people automatically assume that the majority of girls smoke, drink every night, go to clubs constantly, and sleep with every guy she meets.

I can’t remember when this “type” of girl became the norm. Even so, I refuse to conform the this cultural norm. I hope that more girls will understand that being different is more intriguing and desirable than the normal “slut”. There is nothing wrong with having fun. The problem is when its no longer having fun but it is a normal everyday occurrence that is just a way of life. Fun should be like dessert not a right but a treat. Something that doesn’t happen every night therefore, when it does it is more exciting and meaningful.

So yes! Girls like me do exist! We may be few and far between at the moment but we are out there.

They Always Come Running Back..

To start of this post properly I need to explain to everyone that I am truly a skeptic at heart. I question everything. I find that there is more fraudulence in most things than truth. Not to say that I believe everything is false I just feel that the truth is hidden and we must work at finding it. I feel that too many people in the world believe something because they read it on the internet or heard it “through the grapevine”.

There was a point in my life where I felt that this “quote” was just another one of those things that people say to you to help you feel better about your break-up. Well I am living proof that this saying has some validity to it.

So here’s my story…

I was in a junior in a private high school. Yes, you just read it right a private high school eekk.. (I’ll save that explanation for another post) Well, I met this guy lets call him Thomas. He was tall, tan, and completely adorable. I think he was most attractive when he smiled which of course was rare. We went out on our first date that I actually made happen. It was quite a night! We got to know each other very well. We began our relationship that next week after our date. We shared a lot of things together. He was my prom date, junior college boyfriend. Lets face it if my name came up in a conversation Thomas’ was next up. We were that couple that everyone would always say WOW! they are still together. All though, we were not as perfect as we seemed. Toward the end of our relationship he began to show that he was not committed or interested in our relationship any longer.

Fast forward almost three years and we break up. I was heartbroken to say the least. I had begun to get to the point where I didn’t see my life without him in the picture somewhere. Looking back the break-up was one of the best things for me! Being the skeptic I am I look back in disbelief that I had been so stupid. How could I have become so dependent on someone else to complete my life? I needed to get back to MY life! Now saying that was the easiest part. I had not realized how difficult it would be to be okay without Thomas.

I cried for many nights and cried a whole lot more when he got a new girlfriend. Of course out of anger I went and found other guys to hang out with. As many of you girls know its not hard to find guys to be around however, it is extremely difficult to find guys you want to be around.  That being said I did not find anyone that I enjoyed being around more than Thomas. I found a couple of good guy “friends”, but we all know that NEVER works out. I even found a guy that I was sexually attracted to. The only problem was that he wasn’t the kind of guy that I would want to be in a relationship with.

Now I hope everyone is keeping up… Fast forward a little over a year.

Thats right I started dating Thomas at 16 and now I am 20 years old. It kills me that one guys has consumed me for such a long time.

Well, here it comes after a year and four months of not hardly speaking except for a text message here and there Thomas tells me that he misses me. Of course I tell him I miss him as well, not thinking much of it. I figured it was a platonic I miss you, but I don’t want to get back together with you. Well boy was I wrong! He wanted to get back together with me pretty badly. I of course was very skeptic of his motives. Therefore, I told him that we would need to spend some time together and see where it goes. Well of course, now I am wondering Did I make the right decision?

I fully believe that there was no right or wrong option for me. I had to go with my gut. Which let me add is one of my least favorite things to do! I like to be able to weigh the pros and cons and then make somewhat of an informed decision. I fear that the only way I am going to be able to tell if I made the right decision or not is see what happens. I need to see if he truly has changed and then decide if I want to continue with him.

So obviously, as you can see the question isn’t whether or not they will come running back. The question is when they do come back will you let them back in or not. [and that is a question only you can answer for yourself]

Feel free to comment if you would like. I am sharing this story to help those of you dealing with a heartbreak.

My First Post

Normally I tend to be a very private person. I have not thought that any of my thoughts were necessarily worth sharing with others or that anyone may be interested in what I have to say. With that said this blog is going to be full of my thoughts and life experiences. I hope you enjoy and can find my words interesting. My goal is that my thoughts have an impact on others in a positive way somehow. Please feel free to comment and let me know what you think.

Well here it goes………..

I am a college student who recently moved out on my own. It has been a very interesting experience to say the least. At first I was very scared and nervous, but after it was all said and done I absolutely loved it! It is a liberating feeling knowing that you can do whatever you like and no one is there to ask you what time you will be home or if they think you should go. I have not come from a family that was super strict but more protective than anything. I by no means feel like I had the best childhood, but either way for better or worse it shaped me into the adult that I am now. Wow! its so weird to be able to call myself an adult.
I am 20 years old at the moment however I have a birthday coming in about 6 months, the big 21! That will be an exciting milestone in my life that I have been looking forward to since I was about 15. Although the more I think about it the more I realize that once you turn 21 thats it. What else is an exciting milestone birthday after you turn 21? I can’t really think of one which is somewhat depressing within the last few months I have really realized how much I have aged and matured over the years. Its one thing to look at the pictures and see how you have changed physically, but it is especially liberating to realize how much you have grown on the inside as well.

I personally feel like the best is yet to come for me. Even though I will always look back at my childhood years and smile that is not where I would rather be. Of course being a child seems easy because you don’t have any real responsibilities, but it was a very trying time for me. I am happy to be at the point in my life where I now have complete control over what I achieve.

I look forward to the journey through adulthood and all of the experiences that will come with it!